assisted living

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Final complete day: 2026-08-11. Attention was 2.6% — this entity appeared in 19 of 738 analyzed posts/comments in the seven days ending that day (34 mentions).

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1. 2026-08-10 17:04 UTCComment

   >I know we’ll have to start looking for a Senior Living, with assisted-living and memory care Those are lifestyle decisions you CAN make, but they are luxury apartment complexes rather than medical facilities and you do not have to go that route. They also do not help you in many of the ways you imagine they will, so find some people to talk to who have extensive experience themselves or with their parents in the kind of places you are thinking of. Do not ask the sales people. (AL can be viable for a while for one spouse with cognitive impairment living with someone who doesn't, but it's still YOU doing all the caretaking except with the benefit of a cafeteria. And she can't yell or wander or set things on fire or otherwise be a difficult neighbor, they will move her to the area they call memory care and it will not be as nice as the pretty AL apartment they sold you, and now you're paying for two places to live. AL is not appropriate for someone with dementia living alone, and they know that, and they will sell it to you anyway because in 3 months they'll be turning that apartment over and raising the rent again.) And be warned that the west coast is eye-wateringly expensive. If you're considering a move, research the prices of actual nursing homes - this is the place she will end up when your apartment complex basic services aren't enough - by state. You may find that it is an eighth of the price to live near a midwestern airport where your sons can fly in rather than paying $20K/month in San Francisco and only see them once or twice a month anyway because SF is so big and traffic is so bad. You may find that a modest one-story wheelchair/walker-friendly home in Akron or Indianapolis or Fort Worth with a housekeeper and a few hours of home health aides per day gets you and her a long way before she needs facility care. (You may also want to talk to your sons about whether they plan to stay there, and if not consider a multigenerational property situation.) You will need to stop flying her back and forth sooner rather than later, as well. It makes things worse to shake up their routines. They don't have the neuroplasticity for stress or adapting to unfamiliar environments. I recommend you take some time to think through what you feel the "remain at home" stage would be for you. Yes, decision-making is up to you now. Team up with your sons and their families to discuss future arrangements, not your wife. I also encourage you to contact your local Office of Aging (it'll be called something like that, inside the Health Department - you can call 211 and probably get their direct number) and take advantage of their resources that can explain how all this stuff generally works in the US and even if you are anticipating moving states at least find out what you have in DC or your state so you can compare to other states. Here in Oregon that department can put us in touch with people who explain Medicaid, placement services that help match you with the support level you need, help you figure out home aide options, even get mobility and accessibility upgrades to your current living space. I don't know if it's worth trying this with your wife, but while my mother has mostly phased out of understanding she has dementia, she's convinced she's had a stroke or multiple strokes and we're just rolling with that idea. I think it's just such a common and blame-free thing that happens to people all the time, it's an easier explanation for her "memory problems" (and in my mom's case, balance and motor issues too). Youtube is sometimes an easier resource to get your initial understanding of Alzheimers progression, versus trying to concentrate on books. But please do reach out to your local Aging services, they really can be a goldmine of information and unexpected help.

2. 2026-08-10 16:37 UTCComment

   First let me say how sorry I am that you and your wife are going through this. A couple of suggestions: Regarding neurologist appointments. The doctor can help with medications. What meds will work changes as the disease progresses and also varies from person to person. My husband’s neurologist also had a social worker from Alzheimer’s Association at the appointments to let me know of resources etc. Regarding assisted living/memory care etc. You need to tour them but really your wife does not. If the time comes that you feel she needs placement she will not recall if she visited that facility before. This is a horrible disease.

3. 2026-08-10 16:21 UTCPost

   Just starting this with my wife (79F). So many questions/anxieties - I’ve been following this Reddit for six months now, since my wife (79F) was diagnosed. I guess I’m looking for answers, although I’m sure there are none. I know this long letter seems like a “brain dump“ but right now I don’t have other resources to turn to. At least she has had 79 good years. I see stories in this reddit if people who contracted the disease much earlier in their 60s. I feel really bad for you all. Right now, things are OK. Her health is otherwise good. She can help with breakfast, and dinner (only basic cooking and preparing salad) but I don’t think I could leave her by herself for more than a couple of hours. She treats each day as new, and is generally optimistic and cheerful. Maybe the Lexapro helps that. She took Aricept for a while. But stopped it after the side effects of nightmares and nausea. She doesn’t even realize she has a disease (just “memory issues”), so she wouldn’t be up for the lequimbi or other medication that requires infusion at a clinic. In fact, she’s still angry at me “and all your friends“ for taking her to doctors in January February to get a diagnosis. She says “oh I’ve got memory issues“ but has no idea what’s coming down the road. She denies getting an actual diagnosis. A friend of mine, who is also a neurologist, said that Aricept only extends the “mild“ phase by 10%, and the other drugs by 30%, (but with side effects). So even if she were to agree, we’re talking about extending this phase by only three months to a year. Then, what is “moderate” Alzheimer’s? Will she need assisted-living? I know we’ll have to start looking for a Senior Living, with assisted-living and memory care in the future. That’s really difficult, since Mary Ann doesn’t even believe she has a serious medical issue. She says “I’m older than you, so I’ll die sooner“ (she’s 79, I’m 72, but that’s another story there.) I try to say “we need a place that can take care of us as we get older and have medical issues, because we don’t want to put that burden on our adult sons.” But she’s always been a “one day at a time“ person so, it seems that I have to start making all the decisions for us. Even if we try to discuss and make a plan even for the next day’s activities, she will have forgotten that plan by the next day. So how do I do this? Do we start clearing at our house and selling stuff that the kids won’t want (that will take six months), while I get on assisted living communities waiting list, near where our sons live? (We were married, and have lived last 40 years, and raised our kids in Washington DC, while both sons now live in the San Francisco area, married with children.) And then, on future trips back to San Francisco, we start “touring“ the senior communities? But she doesn’t even believe she needs one? Do I just wait until I can’t take it anymore and then say we’re moving. Some days I’m close to that already. I mean, every waking minute of my life is worrying about the future, while she never thinks about the future and we can’t have a discussion about the future. It seems the only time I get to myself, is between 9 PM and 3 AM. What good do continuing visits with Neurologists do? Her Dr wants her to do another neuropsych evaluation in January, which will just freak her out more. Thank you everyone. Wish me strength.

4. 2026-08-09 20:45 UTCComment

   We are currently on a trip with our LO. It’s a new place to her. My hometown she’s my MIL. And she’s doing great. I’m not sure her stage but her official dx is moderate Alzheimer’s. For perspective she’s in assisted living stage one called deflect and redirect. It’s definitely a last hoorah trip. And it’s been beautiful to see her enjoying herself. Definitely bittersweet but I’d recommend it if your LO is in a similar stage. She’s with us and knows the people in my hometown bc they come to visit us a lot. So familiar places I think help the new place aspect.

5. 2026-08-09 18:02 UTCComment

   Dear god, I hope you are a bot. Or that this ragebait. If you aren't, take a walk outside your gated community every once in a while or, you know, educate yourself. So many people, including boomers, are suffering. Not because they are bad people or they drink too much coffee or whatever triviality you want to list, but because the cost of private long term care is shocking. \[My LO's monthly care bill for assisted living and then memory care is more than my spouse and my's monthly income. And we're upper middle class for our community!\] Medicare does not cover care. Medicaid does, only if the couple turns over or uses all of its resources, essentially bankrupting the healthier spouse. Also, many of these medicaid facilities are just awful. This isn't a generational blame game. It's a structural problem.