caretaker

Attention over time

7-day rolling share of analyzed posts/comments mentioning this entity · 90 daily points ending 2026-08-11

Final complete day: 2026-08-11. Attention was 0.7% — this entity appeared in 5 of 738 analyzed posts/comments in the seven days ending that day (5 mentions).

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Recent mentions

1. 2026-08-11 12:08 UTCComment

   Mom never drove away but she was quiet and quick when I went to the bathroom. She walked out of the house several times and once set the microwave on fire all while I was in the bathroom. And no, I’m not in there scrolling. I’m in there just taking care of business and getting out as quick as I can. All this to say that even the best caretakers have to use the bathroom and what your grandmother did was very very unfortunate but it’s not something you should feel guilty about. Not much you could have done to prevent it from happening. Patients even manage to escape from secure memory care units so be kind to yourself.

2. 2026-08-10 02:31 UTCComment

   No valuable jewelry. Costume jewelry that you won’t mind go missing fine. She won’t need her ID or working credit cards. No money. There is no where to spend it. If it’s a point of contention, get some fake money from Amazon to leave with her. No cell phone. It will go missing. Bring nothing you would be upset about if it disappeared. Memory care items go missing. Either the resident puts it somewhere that they cannot remember. Or another resident moves it somewhere. (This is often referred as shopping.) Shopping happens. It’s unpredictable if or when a resident shops. And while you may say, not my mom never, you may find her she has shopped at some point. One of the things my mother-in-law’s roommate had, and we copied, was a life board on her wall. It had a paragraph about her (This is Mary. She was married to Joe. They had three children - Mark, Luke, and John. She worked as a secretary for 25 years etc) and pictures with the people labeled. It gave the caretakers, especially the night ones family did not see, a sense of her person.

3. 2026-08-09 22:19 UTCComment

   Worst answer btw - children are not born to be their parents or grand parents caretakers - including the girls, esp the girls. If they want to choose to do so thats fine - but it is not their obligation.

4. 2026-08-08 04:13 UTCPost

   Saying goodbye - First off I want to thank everyone here who has shared their experience with their LOs here. Never shared anything of my own but frequently read and learned a thing or two about my own situation, especially since I'm not US-based. I'm trying to navigate grief and anger at this fucking disease that took what was the person I loved the most in the world, so sharing a few things that have been in my mind since my mom died last week. \- Everyone involved in caring for your LO is doing their best out of what they think they can help with. Sometimes it was easier to judge and carry resentment but I'm glad all I did to care for her I did it having my mom's best interest in mind, not worrying about even distribution of roles with others involved. So, now I'm at peace with that. Can't say the same for others because they got away as things got worse, but they'll have to live with it. \- Some people think your LO is no longer that person they grew with as they keep declining and need more and more assistance with the most mundane tasks. That's fine and can be understood. In my own experience however, your LO is still there and can still express love and other emotions until the last minute. Even if they're not there mentally, their presence still reacts to how you treat them. Yes, she could not hold a conversation for more than 2 seconds in the end but I'm sure she did feel loved and cared for all throughout. I'm also sure she felt scared towards the end and that hit me really hard. \- Caretakers need help. I think we also need to reach out for help when we need it. Taking care of my mom was exhausting but having more than one person help in different ways made all the difference. If you are doing this alone, you have my utmost admiration yet I'd encourage you to really assess all your options. \- I think I was ready to let her go to some extent. It turns out I wasn't. This disease lets you grief for such a long time so I thought I was but still the pain of having lost her is too much to handle sometimes. Fuck Alzheimer! \- When she stopped eating and started having difficulty swallowing I knew it was almost the end for her. I simply didn't know how common was for pneumonia to be the thing that would take her. I thought it would be her heart or liver, not her lungs aspiring drinks. I feel so bad I insisted her to at least drink stuff in her last days as I think I may have accelerated her process. \- I have been thinking about my own aging and mortality more than ever now. Will I get it too? Do I do something now or eventually to spare my family from all that suffering? Nobody knows, but expressing your preferences in any case is a good start Anyway, I think I will leave this sub soon after but wish you all find peace and strength to deal with this horrible disease, whether it's you who have been diagnosed or someone you love. I feel like I have been released from hell at the expense of sacrificing my most loved person.

5. 2026-08-05 00:50 UTCComment

   If people were well paid to help to caretaker the informed it would be a different story. An empathic caregiver(s) for 18 hours a day would ease the family. Care givers should be well compensated for their time, not miumun wage as is the case in most areas.