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7-day rolling share of analyzed posts/comments mentioning this entity · 90 daily points ending 2026-08-11

Final complete day: 2026-08-11. Attention was 0.7% — this entity appeared in 5 of 738 analyzed posts/comments in the seven days ending that day (5 mentions).

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1. 2026-08-08 04:13 UTCPost

   Saying goodbye - First off I want to thank everyone here who has shared their experience with their LOs here. Never shared anything of my own but frequently read and learned a thing or two about my own situation, especially since I'm not US-based. I'm trying to navigate grief and anger at this fucking disease that took what was the person I loved the most in the world, so sharing a few things that have been in my mind since my mom died last week. \- Everyone involved in caring for your LO is doing their best out of what they think they can help with. Sometimes it was easier to judge and carry resentment but I'm glad all I did to care for her I did it having my mom's best interest in mind, not worrying about even distribution of roles with others involved. So, now I'm at peace with that. Can't say the same for others because they got away as things got worse, but they'll have to live with it. \- Some people think your LO is no longer that person they grew with as they keep declining and need more and more assistance with the most mundane tasks. That's fine and can be understood. In my own experience however, your LO is still there and can still express love and other emotions until the last minute. Even if they're not there mentally, their presence still reacts to how you treat them. Yes, she could not hold a conversation for more than 2 seconds in the end but I'm sure she did feel loved and cared for all throughout. I'm also sure she felt scared towards the end and that hit me really hard. \- Caretakers need help. I think we also need to reach out for help when we need it. Taking care of my mom was exhausting but having more than one person help in different ways made all the difference. If you are doing this alone, you have my utmost admiration yet I'd encourage you to really assess all your options. \- I think I was ready to let her go to some extent. It turns out I wasn't. This disease lets you grief for such a long time so I thought I was but still the pain of having lost her is too much to handle sometimes. Fuck Alzheimer! \- When she stopped eating and started having difficulty swallowing I knew it was almost the end for her. I simply didn't know how common was for pneumonia to be the thing that would take her. I thought it would be her heart or liver, not her lungs aspiring drinks. I feel so bad I insisted her to at least drink stuff in her last days as I think I may have accelerated her process. \- I have been thinking about my own aging and mortality more than ever now. Will I get it too? Do I do something now or eventually to spare my family from all that suffering? Nobody knows, but expressing your preferences in any case is a good start Anyway, I think I will leave this sub soon after but wish you all find peace and strength to deal with this horrible disease, whether it's you who have been diagnosed or someone you love. I feel like I have been released from hell at the expense of sacrificing my most loved person.

2. 2026-08-08 03:51 UTCComment

   I just reread your post and I guess that you are talking about Assisted Living vs. memory care. I was glad I skipped Assisted living so I didn’t have to move her twice. Although I’ve known other people who have moved their loved one more than 3 times! although she was more moderate than some of the people in memory care I did chose a facility that seemed to have some more early middle stage residents she could hold better conversations with. They also did an assessment and agreed that memory care would be the better fit for her.

3. 2026-08-07 22:07 UTCComment

   You should definitely have a conversation with your functional doctor! Alternatively, you can make an appointment with Care Access to have the (free!) Brain Health screening test, which includes ptau217, A1c (blood sugar), hsCRP (inflammation), Creatinine/eGFR (kidney function), Lp(a) (LDL's evil cousin) and liver tests. The blood test that I am using to track the level of amyloid in my brain is the ptau217 (stand-alone) test. Researchers use this test to track how well new drugs work, select participants for clinical trials, and measure changes in brain plaques over time. That's how Care Access uses the test and that's how I got my first ptau217 test... at Care Access. Subsequent tests were ordered by the neurologist and then by my PCP. Please note that this test is not approved by the FDA. The FDA has approved a more elaborate (and expensive) test: the Lumipulse G pTau217/ß-Amyloid 1-42 Plasma Ratio blood test. It tests the ratio of phosphorylated tau 217 (pTau217) to beta-amyloid 1-42 proteins in blood plasma. It is more accurate than the ptau217 (stand-alone) test.

4. 2026-08-05 20:22 UTCComment

   You clearly love your mom very much, which makes these decisions so hard, but I agree 100 percent with others, that given everything, you need to move out. You can give notice, and do this in a reasonable and respectful way, you can set your own timeline--6 months, 9 months, etc., and you can even offer to continue to provide some help (visiting grandma, taking mom to appointments) but this should not be falling entirely on you, especially as you are just starting to build your adult life. Your father may not feel comfortable cleaning his mother-in-law, but he can certainly help identify options for residential or in-home support and take responsibility for putting those in place. Can your siblings at least support you in this decisions? Perhaps they can join in a conversation with your parents? (They could also help with researching options). I think you are right to be worried about the impact on your long-term employability and career trajectories. It is important for you to get a job now, and focus on building your experience and your life. You are not abandoning anyone by doing this; this is just what needs to happen. Your father and your mom's siblings are the ones that need to step in here. I understand your mom's concerns--less the part about what others will think, but definitely the complicated feelings that come with putting one's mother in a home. But many of us have come to the point where that is necessary. You have done a heroic job already helping to care for her. There will be many difficult moments to come, but you have a life ahead of you, and you need to have time and space free from these caregiving burdens to build that. You can still visit and provide support, but on the side, not as the main caregiver.

5. 2026-08-05 04:50 UTCComment

   Hospice staff (physicians, nurses and nurse aides) are all specifically trained in end-of-life issues for all terminally ill diagnoses, including the dementias. We recently had our local hospice’s ARNP come into our home to discuss both the Palliative and the Hospice programs. She was very capable at assessing my SOs feelings regarding the disease and its progress; she tailored the conversation to engage him at the appropriate level. We ended up talking over 2 hours, with SO participating at his comfort level. She left some materials when we were finished, and there was NO pressure or hard-sell. I would encourage you to request a home visit to have an open discussion like this. As an advanced RN, she would be able to discuss your SOs need for a surgical decision, and help to arrive at the best answer. Wishing you all the best in this journey.