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Final complete day: 2026-08-11. Attention was 0.7% — this entity appeared in 5 of 738 analyzed posts/comments in the seven days ending that day (5 mentions).

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1. 2026-08-08 09:27 UTCComment

   Thank you for this. You expressed it beautifully and I will keep it in mind. I'm sorry for the loss of your mother. My two cents: pneumonia is called "friend of the elderly". It is the gentlest and least painful way to go when the end has arrived. And when they stop eating, the end has arrived. I hope you don't hang on to questioning doing things differently at the end.

2. 2026-08-08 04:13 UTCPost

   Saying goodbye - First off I want to thank everyone here who has shared their experience with their LOs here. Never shared anything of my own but frequently read and learned a thing or two about my own situation, especially since I'm not US-based. I'm trying to navigate grief and anger at this fucking disease that took what was the person I loved the most in the world, so sharing a few things that have been in my mind since my mom died last week. \- Everyone involved in caring for your LO is doing their best out of what they think they can help with. Sometimes it was easier to judge and carry resentment but I'm glad all I did to care for her I did it having my mom's best interest in mind, not worrying about even distribution of roles with others involved. So, now I'm at peace with that. Can't say the same for others because they got away as things got worse, but they'll have to live with it. \- Some people think your LO is no longer that person they grew with as they keep declining and need more and more assistance with the most mundane tasks. That's fine and can be understood. In my own experience however, your LO is still there and can still express love and other emotions until the last minute. Even if they're not there mentally, their presence still reacts to how you treat them. Yes, she could not hold a conversation for more than 2 seconds in the end but I'm sure she did feel loved and cared for all throughout. I'm also sure she felt scared towards the end and that hit me really hard. \- Caretakers need help. I think we also need to reach out for help when we need it. Taking care of my mom was exhausting but having more than one person help in different ways made all the difference. If you are doing this alone, you have my utmost admiration yet I'd encourage you to really assess all your options. \- I think I was ready to let her go to some extent. It turns out I wasn't. This disease lets you grief for such a long time so I thought I was but still the pain of having lost her is too much to handle sometimes. Fuck Alzheimer! \- When she stopped eating and started having difficulty swallowing I knew it was almost the end for her. I simply didn't know how common was for pneumonia to be the thing that would take her. I thought it would be her heart or liver, not her lungs aspiring drinks. I feel so bad I insisted her to at least drink stuff in her last days as I think I may have accelerated her process. \- I have been thinking about my own aging and mortality more than ever now. Will I get it too? Do I do something now or eventually to spare my family from all that suffering? Nobody knows, but expressing your preferences in any case is a good start Anyway, I think I will leave this sub soon after but wish you all find peace and strength to deal with this horrible disease, whether it's you who have been diagnosed or someone you love. I feel like I have been released from hell at the expense of sacrificing my most loved person.

3. 2026-08-07 00:03 UTCComment

   The five years after diagnosis that my mom remained in her home were a nightmare for both of us. She was not bathing, eating, taking her meds, etc. we moved her to memory care, and although the adjustment was painful, she has gained 40 pounds, is clean and well cared for, and her health is the best it has been. She has friends and even a male “friend” she thinks is her husband. The impairments of this disease mean that she will never really “thrive”, but she is happier, healthier, and more safe than she was at home. No regrets on my family’s part. To echo someone else’s statement, taking your mom out of her environment is tough for someone with Alzheimer’s because they are really relying on old memories to function. We tried to place my mom in assisted living and she eloped within 2 days, because she could not learn that this was her new home. We had to place her in memory care after that.

4. 2026-08-06 11:01 UTCComment

   Mine is going through something similar. I’ve been looking into it, and it’s from muscle and coordination loss. Having Alzheimer’s/dementia is exhausting. Even doing something like eating, brushing hair, or walking to the bathroom takes a lot of energy. I think what you’re seeing is that exhaustion in the afternoon. Plus sundowning. Get a wheelchair if you haven’t already. It’s about that time. Even if you don’t need it all the time just yet, it’s great to have on hand.

5. 2026-08-05 22:02 UTCComment

   From what you’ve described, it doesn’t sound terribly unusual to me, but I’d also be careful not to compare your mom to someone else’s timeline. Late-stage dementia can look very different from one person to the next. There is no exact roadmap. I’ve worked with a lot of families caring for loved ones with advanced dementia, and one thing they often tell me is exactly what you said: “It feels like things are changing faster now.” Sometimes there are long periods where not much seems to change. Then all of a sudden, several abilities seem to disappear over the course of weeks instead of months. The things you mentioned—very few words, losing the ability to initiate activities, repetitive self-soothing movements, reduced interest in food, changes in posture, and not really understanding why she’s doing certain things—are all changes I’d make sure her care team knows about. Not because they necessarily mean something new is wrong, but because they’re meaningful changes in how she’s functioning and may affect how she’s cared for going forward. This part is a must. One thing I’d encourage you to watch isn’t just *how much* she’s eating, but whether eating itself is becoming more difficult. Is she getting tired during meals? Does she seem distracted? Is she able to stay upright comfortably? Those kinds of observations are often more helpful than simply saying, “She’s eating less.” They may (or may not) be related to different things. I’d also pay attention to what she still seems to enjoy. Even late in the disease, some people respond to familiar music, a gentle hand massage, sitting outside, or simply having someone quietly nearby. As abilities decline, comfort often becomes the priority rather than activity. families sometimes spend a lot of energy wondering, “Is this normal?” when the more useful question becomes, “What does she need today that she didn’t need last month?” In reality, there is no true normal. That shift in thinking usually leads to practical changes such as different positioning, more assistance at meals, different routines, or simply slowing things down. I know it’s really hard watching these changes happen. Even when you’ve been in stage 7 for a long time, each new loss can feel like another goodbye. That’s something families share over and over again. It never really gets easier—you just keep adapting to where your loved one is today. Stay strong!